Women Talk

I’ve always wondered why it’s so much easier for men to move on after the termination of a relationship. Why do most women mope around, feel sorry for themselves, eat all the chocolate they can get their hands on and need all their girlfriends to be around them while going through a breakup? Sure, women are a lot more emotional than men are and that’s something that we can’t really do much about since it is a genetic screw up but despite this fact I can’t even remember how many times I’ve come across situations where women feel horrible about a break up while the guy is out and about having a big ole ball. Hanging out with his friend’s just days after the split and even meeting new women! The dispersed relationship transpiring into nothing but a ghost of a memory. Are men just wired that way or are they completely oblivious to all things emotional and what is it about women that makes us so prone to the weeping and not being able to get over terminated relationships? What do men do differently when it comes to dealing with ex liaisons to have that oh so wonderful advantage over us? Isn’t there anything that we can do to overcome this feeling of utter and insane helplessness? Mes Cheres, there is! After coming across a few rather galling men myself and therefore having to indulge in some forced soul searching in the area I have come to the conclusion that the only way to happiness for a woman regardless of age or marital status is to stop relying and believing that you’ll be exultant only with prince charming (when in most cases he’s not) in your life. In other words, we must stop depending on someone else particularly the male species to make us happy with ourselves and our lives. That in my opinion is where we lose out to the men folk. Men think solitary while women think binary and that inadvertently makes us reliant. Now I don’t mean that you need to entirely eliminate men from your life, stop dating or become a man hater if you’re a single gal. If a great guy comes along your way immediately following a break up then glory hallelujah, you’ve hit jackpot! But let’s face it how many of us actually come across a replacement that quickly? If you’re like me then NOT many. Likewise if you’re married the implication is not to give your man the silent treatment. What I’m insinuating is that we must seriously evaluate our lives and think sincerely about what will make us happy as individuals. Our goals, ambitions, things we’re passionate about doing should all be thought out and written down following which we ought to get busy making all those things happen! This course of action will work wonders for you. It has for me. After years of being in a sort of dysfunctional and emotionally stressful relationship that is the one thing I’ve learnt. When you’re pursuing the things that you really want from your life whether it’s that dream job, or getting involved in social work, travelling to some place that you’ve always wanted to go or even writing a book etc you’re focusing all your energy and thoughts on being positive and proactive. Eventually and this may take a while, you get to a point when you realize that you really don’t need to be emotionally dependent on someone else to make you happy because you’re busy making yourself happy! There it is. A simple modus operandi for women to take control of their lives. Rest assured if applied with conviction and honesty this technique works and you will certainly feel like “you’ve got the whole world in your hands”.